The pleasing mentality

There’s one kind of dominant mentality that strikes me as standing out, of several other ones. The pleasing kind.

These mentalities tend to “bend over” doing things that please other people in their immediate vicinity or otherwise (only sometimes). They do not seem to get any other benefit out of it other than the satisfaction of knowing that they ARE doing something to please somebody other than their own self. Sometimes, they get a kick out of finding out that their act actually pleases their benefactors, but that’s just an added aphrodisiac.

This is just a mentality, a state of mind, that’s mostly transient. I have observed others in this state, even observed myself a couple of times, unattached, unamused. The state of mind, when let, becomes an overpowering personality trait that overrules other desires, emotional or intellectual.

The funny thing is, this mentality starts out as being intellectually driven and slowly gathers emotional “muster”. The point between letting go, depends mostly on the emotional stability of the person. More on “stability of emotion” later. *#*

After hitting the intellectual tableu, they become subservient almost to the point of being slaves. Not to the ones that they try to please, but to this track of thought, all there own, hereto described as “The Pleasing Mentality”.

This style of writing is a revelation to me. It looks like I’ve been trying to explore the human way of thinking unknowingly. I’ll explore this more later and probably call it “The human mind” tract. *#*

On classifying the human mind

  • There are traits of human thinking, behaviourially minor, that I call mentalities.
  • There are a set of thoughts governed by time that are inescapably ingrained in your mind. Like the desire to study, the desire to seek out socially enriching surroundings etc. These thoughts are hard to overrule.

(More on this later. The difficulty in overruling these behaviours, mostly, comes from the inevitable knowledge of our relatively short lifespans. I believe this can be easily mitigated, if so desired, by elongating the human lifetime.

On racism

Somehow, I’ve come to the realization that there are actually only two distinct races on earth. Male and Female.

After going through years of history, I’ve realized that races have been distinguished by various different differentiations: color, upbringing, religion, region of origin, social beliefs etc. And they always intermingle, during the course of time. None of the differentiations stand out by themselves as being totally separate from the others. Except Sex. There’s always been a male and a female. That’s never going to change in the foreseeable future. Yet we never bring this difference out in terms of race. We’ve always followed the doctrine “men are from mars, women are from venus”.

The connotations of that saying have been tainted by different beliefs. But the truth has been facing us all along. We ARE different. We’ve always been. We’ll always be. The biology is different. Even the genes are different. And so the psychology. No wonder we sometimes tend to think they’re “from a different planet”, or “they never understand us”, or “you never try to accomodate”.

Sex is the race. Men and women are different races.
Yet, we’ve managed to get along. But that’s probably due to the inevitable urge of reproduction.

On life and being

People say that they are not living for themselves. They live for principles.

I want to study science to further human health. I want to work for the good of mankind. I want to make people believe. I want to lead people towards a better lifestyle. I wanna live to uplift humanity.

And I say, the principles come from YOU. YOU believe in it. It comes from the core of your being. It is you. How can you say that you are not living for yourself?

It means, you have to understand yourself, your ambitions, your being, your sexuality, your “karma”. You have to formulate your own reasons for being here. That’s your “deliverance” if you are theologically inclined, “Theory of Everything” if you’re scientifically inclined.

On self psychology

Sometimes I feel like I have two brains, or minds if you like. One of them is stronger, almost like the dominant gene. The other one just does trivial tasks. But sometimes the other brain in the course of doing things, likes me to keep on doing something when in fact I am about to change tasks consciously. As if it’s trying to say.. “I like what I’m doing. Don’t do that, don’t go away. Please!